Having just gone through a bit of a purge on Facebook, I can well relate to the sentiments expressed by Nimue, here. Love the way that she has pointed out the ritualistic aspects, something I hadn’t even considered in the process of cutting away so much. There is, after all, many good reasons we “lost touch” with these people before they tracked us down… Quite liberating – I’d thoroughly recommend it 🙂
Once upon a time if you fell out with someone, there was no simple mechanism for expressing this to your wider community. No symbolic divorcing was available, and either you avoided them in person, or you couldn’t and life went on. The word ‘unfriend’ did not exist, nor did the concept. I am fascinated by the way facebook has changed things for those of us who frequent it – and those other social media sites as well.
There have been seven people in my life who were known to me personally and whom it became, at various times over the last five years or so, necessary to unfriend. We’ll leave aside the spammers and the random internet connections that didn’t work because those would never have existed pre-internet anyway. Seven people I just didn’t want to interact with any more. There were reasons, some more serious than others, but it…
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